Recently Tyler Patterson, founder of Ever Accountable, was interviewed by John Rush’s “Rush to Reason” of KLZ radio based in Denver, Colorado to chat about porn and accountability. We’re sharing this great conversation with you here today, because everyone needs to consider this topic. Porn use is a public health crisis. That is why we’re here — to help you fight back — because there is a way to defeat porn!
Accountability is a time-tested, proven principle.
Tyler: “In the early days of owning a home computer, wise parents put the computer in a public place. That way anyone who walked past would see what you were viewing on your screen. And it worked as a safeguard. That’s the concept of accountability.”
Rush: “Yes, I even used keyloggers as tracking to check my children’s computer use, too. But I also followed some great advice from a friend in IT work who told me, ‘Talk to your children about the dangers on the internet, because they’re going to be exposed to this sooner or later. If you talk about it now, they’re able to be prepared’.
Today we actually have more computing power on our own phones than what they used to send folks to the moon! In fact, it’s not just one device — we’re likely to each have two or three devices.”
Tyler: “Nowadays, things are so different. Computers are in our pockets. People want to quit porn badly and they’re really trying, but it’s like being an alcoholic who carries around a flask all day in his pocket. The temptations are everywhere! Porn is all around us — just one tap away.”
Porn and accountability — how accountability software actually helps combat porn.
Rush: “Many people wonder how Ever Accountable’s software actually works.”
Tyler: “Well, the idea is the same as in the old days with keeping the (computer) screen facing the room. So the app runs on your phone silently, in the background. It doesn’t block stuff. It just records the things you do and shares snippets and random screenshots of your screen with your spouse or your friends.”
Rush: “Just to be clear, you pick the person that you feel you should be accountable to, and the app’s literally taking these screenshots of what you’re doing at different times of the day, sharing it with that person you’re accountable to.”
Tyler: “Yes, it works exactly how it sounds — really simple. But it works amazingly. Well, when you expose it, pornography is like a cockroach that runs away when you shine the light on it. The temptation just melts away, and people don’t go there anymore.”
Rush: “Filters don’t always work well, so this would also be something folks should try. Now young people, you know, are getting a cell phone as early as 12-13 years of age. So that would be great to have on their phones or devices.”
Tyler: “Oh, I think so. And then the benefit is, you’re giving them freedom. We’re not forcing anybody to do anything. You can do what you want — make choices. You’re teaching them to make good choices, and you can talk to your kids about their choices.”
Rush: “You’re doing exactly, Tyler, what I was taught by that IT mentor. Meeting that temptation head-on by talking about it. That’s essentially what you guys are doing.”
Accountability opens up needed conversations about porn across all ages.
Tyler: “Yes, and you need to have conversations about porn with your kids in age-appropriate ways. That’s very important! If they don’t hear it from their parents, they are going to hear it from somebody on the playground or at school.
Rush: And the new stats on porn, well you know this as well as I do, it used to be back in the day that the subject we’re talking about only affected men. Now porn use goes across both genders. In the fact, the last time I checked about 60% of women also have a pornography problem, when it used to be really just a male problem.
Tyler: “I don’t know what the exact number is for the women, but it’s a growing problem. There’s a lot of shame there and a lot of pain, and people aren’t talking about it. I think if you are a woman who’s dealing with this yourself, or know someone who is, we need to talk about it.
Don’t be ashamed! You need to understand this is very common, and you can’t get out from under pornography alone. We just have to have other people help. We have to be accountable.”
Rush: “I like the fact that you’re literally teaching people how to be accountable, and how to handle this on their own. And I’m not bad-mouthing the filters, Tyler, at all. That’s a whole different approach. But those loved ones in your life, they’re going to be exposed to porn at some point in time. Anyways, you might as well teach your kids on the front side how to deal with it. We need to talk about it.”
Tyler: “On top of this, accountability changes people’s lives. We’re tapping into the age-old principle of accountability in more than one way. The temptation goes away, and accountability also opens up conversations.
Like, if you’re struggling a bit with something. Okay, now you can talk about it. And that leads to some healing and answers.
We’ve talked about help for young people and women, and that’s important. But there’s a lot of people struggling with porn who aren’t so young anymore. There’s help for everyone who asks.”
Accountability is life-changing.
Tyler: “Would it be okay if I read a letter to you from the wife of one of our customers?
She said, ‘I want to tell you how grateful I am for your software. My husband’s secret came out at the worst possible time in our lives. And I wasn’t sure I could make it through, because of how impossible it was for me to trust him. How could I trust him without proof? Ever Accountable became my proof. Filters didn’t work. And there’s always that awful incognito window.My husband was so ready to get out of porn. He wanted to get help, too, but he didn’t know how to do it. Ever Accountable has kept him away from pornography for several months now, and as he puts it, the desire to look at porn is gone.
He has become a changed person, and I’ve witnessed the physical change in him, too. There’s a light in his eyes and in his countenance. The guy who was in there the whole time finally is able to come out. My six kids really needed a dad — and now they have one.”
Rush: Awesome! It’s a great app that you guys have to really help people with porn and accountability. Folks, that’s Tyler from Ever Accountable. And even if you don’t struggle in this area, pass this along to someone you know in a very kind and welcoming manner. That’s www.everaccountable.com.
Here’s the truth. Someone you know is struggling to quit porn.
When you think about that, it’s kind of mind-blowing, but these are the facts. At almost every income level world-wide, most people own a smartphone. In fact, Statista.com states there are over 6 billion active smartphone subscriptions world-wide out of an estimated world population of 7.9 billion.
Who are the top world-wide cell phone users? The United States, China, and India lead the way, not surprisingly.
Accountability software plays a significant role in helping people win their struggle against a porn habit. You can’t win against porn all by yourself. Porn truly is just “one tap away” in almost everyone’s pockets.
Help is only one easy tap away, too. We’re so grateful to be able to offer a genuine, proven tool to help you get the porn out of your life. Click here today to seek freedom from porn!
