- Understanding Shame
- Feelings are not Truth
- Don't Blame the Past, Develop a New One`
Reading Time: 2 minutes You are not your addiction or mistakesWe all have moments when we feel we are not at our best. As human beings, we are prone to stumble, to make mistakes, and to fall short of the expectations we set for ourselves. Remembering that we are also beings of unlimited potential for good can be difficult, but essential to the healing process. Knowing that despite our shortcomings we can still help and be a light to others is important. While in the process of rising beyond the effects of heavy pornography use, it's important to remember that our struggles do not define us. An article from Fight The New Drug's sister publication Fortify Program reminds us that although feelings of shame, hopelessness, and guilt are common, they do not mean that you are broken. You are a fighter and are deserving of real love, support, and happiness. Too many times in the fight against addiction, we get bogged down with the negativity that always arises when talking about pornography. At this point, we already know about the harmful effects and the dangers, but it seems making the leap from "I made a mistake" to "I am a bad person" is all too common. That we are not our mistakes is important to remember, not just for those who are struggling, but for those who are supporting a loved one through their journey. Change is a processThe article,"Here's Why Those Who Struggle With Porn Aren't Bad People" touches on the fact that many of us feel frustrated when our habits don't change overnight. It offers up three reasons why those who are in the process of healing are not inherently unworthy, and are capable of change.